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Relationship Management During COVID-19

Many of us are experiencing a sense of loss due to the coronavirus crisis. We may be grieving the loss of loved ones, the start of new economic challenges, and the interruption to our normal routines and activities, as well as our typical interactions with others.

The term “social distancing” has become one we’re familiar with, but it may be helpful to reframe the concept. The kind of distance we
really need is physical, as maintaining social connections has never been more important. Our provider community of therapists, psychologists, and other mental health professionals agrees.

Here are some ideas from Spring Health clinicians about how best to manage various relationships in our lives during this time. You can also download these relationship management tips as a PDF.

Managing relationships with children

I want to talk with my child about the pandemic, but where do I start? How candid should I be?

Asking your child what they already know about the virus is a great place to start. With so much information available, and not all of it accurate, it’s important to ensure that your child has the facts.

It’s okay to be honest about your emotions, but talk about what gives you comfort and hope during times of uncertainty. Our children are sponges when it comes to emotions, especially fear and anxiety. While being honest is important, be sure to share your thoughts in a calm and even tone, and limit the amount of details you share.

Should your child ask you a specific question about the virus, it’s okay to answer — to an extent. Specific figures and statistics are not always necessary or helpful. If you don’t know the answer, be honest about that too! It gives you and your child an opportunity to seek the answer together.

Remember to check in with your child regularly so they feel safe and supported.

Are there resources I could use to make the conversation easier?

Yes. The following resources provide good starting points:

Managing relationships with teens

How should I engage my teenager in a conversation about the pandemic?

Openly discuss changes for the family, community and society during and after the pandemic. The goal here is to help them manage expectations.

Use discussions about COVID-19 to inspire hope and optimism. Are there opportunities to express gratitude for good health? Are there safe ways to help others during this time?

Encourage your teenager to discuss their thoughts and ideas for maintaining wellness, education and daily routines during the pandemic.

It’s OK if the conversation gets candid. There’s no need to dive into specific statistics or share heavy news headlines, but if your teen asks about something they’ve seen or heard, don’t be afraid to talk about it.

My teen is prone to anxiety. How can I best support them?

Encourage your teen to develop a unique coping statement such as, “I will get through this day.” Repeat the statement together, and urge them to say it when they feel anxiety setting in.

Help your teenager reframe anxious thoughts into positive, optimistic ones. For example, if your teen is afraid they’ll never see their friends again, encourage them to think about a fun activity to plan with friends in the future.

Engage your teenager in deep breathing or guided meditation exercises to help reduce stress.

Help your teenager maintain regular routines for meals, hygiene, physical activity, and education.

Are there specific changes in behavior I should be concerned about?

Yes. Keep an eye out for the following potential changes:

Mood swings. As a parent, you know your teen better than anyone. Trust your gut when you notice a shift in mood that is out of character.

Physical symptoms. Look for changes in eating, sleeping or an increase in physical ailments like stomach aches, headaches or backaches. Take note if your teen is neglecting personal appearance and hygiene. Also be aware of decline in energy and activity levels. These could be signs that mental health support and treatment are needed.

Self-medicating. Look for signs of drug or alcohol use, self-harming behaviors, eating disorders, and avoidant behaviors.

Are there resources that could be helpful for my teenager?

Managing relationships for couples

My partner and I have different outlooks on the pandemic. How should we handle that?

Remember the importance of respecting each other’s ideas and opinions, and try to limit discussion about the pandemic. If disagreements evolve into arguments, try to take a step back. Avoid making major decisions about your relationship until life has returned to normalcy.

How do my partner and I handle conflict when we’re stuck in the same space?

Give each other some time to calm down. Walk away and find a quiet space. Use that time to reflect or practice relaxation techniques.

Think about journaling your feelings when you’re starting to feel frustrated or angry.

If you find yourselves in a heated exchange, use more “I” statements and fewer “you” statements.

Try some grounding exercises with your partner to bring yourselves back to the present.

Redirect the conversation! Instead of dwelling on the negative, try making lists about fun things you want to do in the future, or reminisce about things you’ve done together in the past.

How do I establish alone time without hurting my partner’s feelings?

Create a schedule that includes time apart from each other, and set the expectation that daily alone time is necessary. Give each other a window of time after finishing work. Listen to music, workout, or go get the mail by yourself.

Are there resources you recommend to help keep my relationship strong?

Healthline offers 30 grounding techniques to quiet distressing thoughts. Try these on your own or with your partner.

Newsweek provide tips from dating experts for keeping the spark alive during isolation.

Psychology Today published an article about avoiding a COVID-19 divorce.

Managing relationships with the elderly

How do I express concern to my eldery loved ones without seeming ageist?

Ask them about their concerns first. Find out about their experience in dealing with past adversities and how they’ve dealt with their emotions. Start where they are and find out how they’re impacted by the current situation. It’s important not to focus on age but, instead, that you’re concerned. After all, you love them and only want them to be safe and healthy!

What should I say when an elderly friend or family member isn’t taking the risks seriously?

Talk about your concerns without demanding they change their behaviors. Let them know that you respect their ability to make their own decisions, but ultimately their health and wellbeing is most important. If they choose not to alter their behavior, be candid about boundaries that you need to put in place as a result (less contact with grandchildren, fewer visits, etc.).

How can I help reduce anxiety or fear?

Keep an open dialogue. Talk to them about what they’re worried or fearful about.

Try to focus on the positive and things that are currently within their control.

Encourage them to continue practicing good habits like exercising, eating well and getting enough sleep.

Suggest they return to past interests or develop a new hobby like painting, writing, singing, reading, etc.

Show them relaxation exercises like deep breathing, body scanning, meditation, etc.

How can I help them feel socially connected?

Write letters! It’s a memorable way to touch the people you love and makes going to the mailbox fun again.

If they don’t already know how, show them how to video chat with friends and family.

Go through picture albums and reminisce.

Look at this as an opportunity to reconnect in a way that might not have otherwise been possible. This
extra time at home is more quality time to spend with the ones you love.

Are there other resources for managing relationships with elderly loved ones?

For your convenience, you can also download these relationship management tips as a PDF.

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Spring Health
July 27, 2020

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